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 This book works!!!!!
I have read many of the negative reviews and can fully understand their disgust with the term "beating." I don't think Mr. Fugate would advocate taking a rod and beating a child like you would use a baseball bat. I turned to this book in desperation when my two year old and four year old children were so out of control that I was near to loosing my mind. I used the smallest dowel rod available to correct my children. I didn't "beat" them into submission, I simply used light strokes to bring about a stinging sensation that "got their attention." Today my "two year old boy" is a twenty three year electrical engineer with great moral standards who highly respects those in authority. My "four year old daughter" is a twenty five year old doing purchase ordering for a local refinery. She is also the mother of a two year old who reminds me of my children at her age. I use the smallest dowel rod on her when she is in my care and I can assure you, I spank in love, not in anger. I rarely have to use corporal punishment on her. I only have to say, "I'm going to get the switch" and she usually complies. Instant obedience is extremely important. When a child is running toward the road with oncoming traffic, they better know the meaning of instant obedience when you shout "STOP!" or tragedy will occur. Many (and I know not all) children who were not disciplined are in prison today. As a former Sheriff's Deputy who worked with prisoners, I can tell you, many of them told me they were not disciplined at home.
I am going to buy this book for my daughter. She will know how to discipline in love.
I would not recommend this book for a person who has a problem with anger.
I would recommend this book for anyone who loves their child and wants to lovingly apply Biblical principles in correction, and produce children who turn into adults with self-control, respect and a sense of value.
What the Bible Says About Child Training
Although this book may seem harsh to those who either do not know what the Bible teaches about the training of children or do not wish to adhere to Biblical teaching, it is a well thought out book that explains the proper training of children. The author is in no way advocating the abuse of children. Quite to the contrary, he is showing that by the use of Biblical child training methods you can avoid abuse all together. By teaching your children to obey and respect your authority early in life you will avoid the most unpleasant circumstances that will undoubtedly occur if your children are allowed to be disrespectful and disobedient.
Training up your children in the way they should go
You 'raise' vegetables but not children, so, what better way is there, in the world, today, (with all the chaos going on)to train up your children in the way they should, so, that when they are old they will not depart from it. God, who created them, knows them best and this book is compiled from the Bible to help you train up your children! This book is right on!
Sincerely, Mrs. Wilson
Like it or not, God's plan works
Whew, I guess I shouldn't be, but I was surprised at the polarized reviews and responses here, either very good or very bad. Some of the negative reviewers seem to be critiquing the spin, which makes me wonder if they have even read the book.
As a young parent looking for a good book on parenting, I knew I needed it to have two things, a Biblical basis, and an author who had successfully raised children of his own. I didn't want someone's untested theories experimented on my children, this was too important. This book has a systematic Biblical approach and an author who has raised 3 children of his own to adulthood. It has a clear conceptual view of the goal of Biblical parenting, to teach children what they need to know so that they can be Godly, self-controlled adults.
I have read this book and have applied it with my own children, who are grown now, and it works, not just in the short term. My natural tendency is to avoid conflicts, but this book has helped me realize that it is not loving to let my children's bad behavior or attitude go unchecked. God's plan for parenting does work. Some people may disagree, but the results speak for themselves.
With gratitude ...
I am very grateful to Richard Fugate for the time he invested in this book. I am also grateful to my parents who have implemented its principles since the '70s and started sharing this book with others in the '80. As a now 30+ years old mother, I'm finding that my parents were right. Having been raised in a home with VERY strict discipline, I'd like to point out that discipline and love for your child don't have to be opposing forces. Discipline is an extension of love. There may be parents who implement the discipline concept of this book without love, they will have negative results. Their children's hearts will not be trained "in the way they should go." On the other hand, love without discipline is an oxymoron. Find a Christian family who has raised children who are now adults and continuing in the faith without having ever turned away, and you will have found a family who strictly disciplined their children in love. After having been raised this way and watching my friends who were not, fall away from their faith, I know there is no other way.
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